Those affected by childhood sexual abuse are often termed as survivors of abuse, and rightly so as being defined as a victim is hardly empowering for anyone who has already been degraded and stripped of dignity. The trouble is that it can be hard to always think as survivors, it is much easier to slip into patterns of victimhood in our view of ourselves and our relationships with others.
This post from Lesley explores the tendency towards victimhood and manages to be moving and honest. It acknowledges self pity without indulging in it. What I am coming to value more and more when I read accounts of difficult personal circumstances is the honesty.